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What will happen in my first counselling session?
Starting counselling can hold a lot of unknowns.
Mar 312 min read


I'm Afraid to Start Counselling: Overcoming Fear
Counselling can seem like a scary thing to do for so many reasons. It is hard to start something new. Here are some things which might help.
Feb 152 min read


A Better Way to Cope
We all have ways that we have learned to manage the difficulty and stress in life.
Jan 252 min read


Brokenness and Tender Places
We are all broken people. Living in a broken world. Surrounded by other broken people. We find the most pain when these tender places are...
Jan 41 min read


Can I Ask...Is EMDR creepy?
Someone asked me this question recently and I've wondered if others think it too. Many things that we're not familiar with can seem...
Dec 28, 20242 min read


O Come All You Unfaithful
An over-sparkly Christmas experience can miss those in pain. Yet it is in the dark, empty, smelly places that God is often working unseen.
Dec 7, 20242 min read


One of My Favourite Ways to Calm: Be still and know
One of my favourite ways to help calm my own mind and body is through a breathing exercise which incorporates Psalm 46:10.
Nov 30, 20242 min read


Overwhelmed? It's time to HALT
If you find yourself overwhelmed with stress, feeling it's difficult to make decisions or easily getting into conflict with others: H.A.L.T.
Nov 16, 20242 min read


You Are Enough
Being enough means not being perfect. It means being approachable, being broken, being a seeker of renewed relationships, and ...
Oct 26, 20242 min read


Counselling Is Brave Work
It takes incredible courage to do the kind of deep-heart work that people do in counselling.
Oct 12, 20241 min read


You're Worth Protecting
You're worth protecting.
Sit with that for a moment. Now take a deep breath and read it again...
You are worth protecting.
Sep 28, 20242 min read


Control: The Fried Egg Model
I talk to a lot of people about fried eggs. They are a great way to reflect on a common area of struggle: control.
Sep 7, 20243 min read


Learning emotions through children's books
For those who didn't learn how to notice, identify, and regulate emotions as a child, children's books on emotions are so helpful.
Aug 24, 20242 min read


Messy people
I often hear people say that they feel "messy" or "not good enough" to be in relationship with others.
Aug 10, 20242 min read


Average is Underrated
Noticing average things as being okay means noticing that certain things are actually predictable in a way that isn't harmful.
Jul 20, 20242 min read


Dark Clouds, Deep Mercy - Lament
Sometimes we feel that the urging in the bible to "not be afraid" feels like a condemnation of fear and anxiety.
Jul 6, 20242 min read


More About EMDR
If you're considering trying EMDR, you might be interested in what others have to say about it as an approach.
Jun 28, 20241 min read


Boundaries are like gardens
Part of what makes the botanical gardens beautiful are the boundaries. If you come into the botanical gardens and dig up roses and step all
Jun 22, 20242 min read


It's okay to not be okay . . .
It's okay to not be okay . . . but it's not okay to stay that way. We all have times in life where we are struggling more than normal.
Jun 8, 20242 min read


Try Softer
There are lots of books on counselling and self-help out there, but one in particular that has my attention at the moment is the book Try...
May 25, 20242 min read
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